I Am Selfish

A while ago I met a great person and they, dare I say, changed my life. This person that I was fortunate enough to meet showed me that it is okay to be selfish, because if you keep giving all of yourself then eventually you will have nothing left to give and you will end up feeling awful because you have not taken care of yourself.

This person showed me that being selfish (to an extent) is okay. They showed me that it is okay to take time for myself, to ask for help and to say no if I know that I will not be able to help in a situation.

This is something that I really have taken to heart and have been trying to practice, and so far its been really good.

I have been trying to keep this in mind for a few months now and while I didn’t do so great at it over the summer with being busy I have been trying to work really hard at it over this school year.

With this being my first semester back from Scotland I have been having a very hard time adjusting back, so being selfish has been helping me cope.

I have learned to take time for myself…

This semester I have been saving time just for myself. Whether it just a movie or show by myself, doing homework or working on blogs and photos, just those few moments have helped me rebalance myself after the day.

Taking time for myself has shown me that I cannot take on everything thrown at me and that when I am feeling stressed or tired that it is okay to take some time to relax and focus on helping my mental health.

I have been asking for help even when its hard…

I am a very stubborn person and am not afraid to admit that. However, with that comes my need to figure everything out on my own and not let people know how I am truly feeling. Doing this really took a toll on me mentally to where I was not in a good place at all.

But, with some practice, trustworthy people and patience I am now slowly being able to open up about how I am feeling and ask for help if I need it. This has been helping me make new connections with people and has made me feel better about myself because I haven’t had to fight my battles alone.

And most importantly I have been working on loving who I am as a person…

Self-love is so incredibly difficult and I have yet to meet a person who is 100% comfortable in their own skin. Many people struggle with loving who they are because society tells them they are ugly, fat, not good enough and stupid.

With being selfish I have been taking the time to learn to try and love all of the things I hate about myself more than the things I already like. I am not going to lie and say I have mastered it at all. But with patience I am slowing learning to accept who I am.

Being selfish, again to an extent, is okay because without loving ourselves we won’t have any love to share with others.

So, now I challenge you to take time for yourself, ask for help with anything you need and to try and learn to love who you are because you are uniquely amazing and created how you were for a reason.

I am selfish and I am okay with that because I am the most important person in my life.